for mums who need
What is perinatal counselling?
The perinatal period starts when a woman discovers she is pregnant up until her baby is one year old. The type of counselling that we offer is person centred and is a 1-2-1 therapy looking at your thoughts and feelings about your life’s events. It is an opportunity for you to look at what is upsetting you and how you can make changes in your life that will improve your outlook for yourself and your baby. Women go through the most exciting but also the most challenging times of their lives when becoming pregnant and giving birth and this can affect how they feel about themselves, their relationships and their baby. We are also mindful that pregnancy and birth can also be a challenge for partners and we support them also within our project.
There is no charge for this service. A total of twelve sessions are offered, initially within clients’ homes but we encourage clients to be seen within the community so as not to increase feelings of isolation. Sessions are usually every two weeks and last for 50 minutes.
It’s been emotional and tiring but very eye-opening, mostly from my counsellor’s approach to mental health well-being. Thank you for the service and the care.
The counsellor was really nice and listened to everything I had to say and offered advice and guidance when needed. Thank you so much.
Are you pregnant or recently had a baby? Do you at times feel overwhelmed by the changes in your body or the new responsibilities you have since giving birth? Are you a partner who wants to be supportive but you’re finding it a challenge and are uncertain what to do? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then we have the support you need. You may be experiencing some of the following;
Thoughts – critically evaluating your abilities and believing you’re not competent, irrational thoughts about your baby and yourself, feeling unsupported and alone.
Emotional – tired and tearful and that you are letting people down, not being able to control worrying and feeling anxious for no good reason. Feeling guilty that you’re not enjoying things as you should.
Behaviour – pretending that everything is “ok” when really its not. Being obsessive in your care of baby or the opposite, being distant and distracted. Isolating yourself from partners, family and friends.
Physical – you may experience things in your body such as headaches and panic attacks.
If anxiety or depression are experienced during pregnancy or following delivery it can negatively impact on how the mother bonds with her baby, how she feels about herself and how the relationship with her partner develops. If this is you, then you may benefit from perinatal counselling.
Family Welfare is able to provide perinatal counselling for anyone who is:
- A resident of the Wigan Borough
- Currently pregnant
- Experiencing post natal depression and has had a baby in the last 2 years
- A new or expectant parent (partner)
You will be expected to attend perinatal counselling sessions regularly (usually once every two weeks). Failure to attend an agreed appointment could mean losing your place with the service.
All names and key details have been changed, to protect the client’s right to confidentiality.
Photographs shown are also not representative of the actual person.
Mum is a 35yr old married lady with 5 children aged from 6 months to 13 years. She came to us following the traumatic birth of her youngest child who had lifesaving surgery at just a few weeks old. She felt overwhelmed and could only cope with the situation by being emotionally detached. In therapy she often spoke of wanting to run away and on several occasions she shared that she wanted to be dead. Of her 5 children, 3 of them have additional needs and Family Welfare have helped her with this by signposting her to our Children’s Advocate. Her attachment was very good at 41/45 but it was this level of attachment that was causing her problems and increased her levels of anxiety considerably.
How our Perinatal counsellor helped
Therapy enabled the client to see her value and worth but to not feel judged by her circumstances and the choices she had made. She started to feel more hopeful for the future and became more courageous, went out with friends and found a new purpose in her life. She is a good Mum and more importantly she now believes this.